How to reply to online dating messages
Remember you’ll end up in someone’s in-box with only a subject line to sell you, so aim to pique their interest. “What’s your favourite obscure album track by [band you both like]? ” “What do you feel your chances are of beating me at tennis? Why should we bother writing a personal reply to a generic message? Men are often tempted to mail-shot because it seems efficient – you can contact 50 women with a generic email in the same time you’d spend writing personalised messages to just five.Reference their profile – “Hello from a fellow Man City fan,” is better than “Hello”, but not as good as, “Why I think we’ll lose on Saturday”. ” You’re more likely to get a reply if your first message is short – just three or four sentences. Plus, they’re boring to answer, as they appear to require a lengthy reply. Don’t take this to extremes, however, and end up sending, “Hi how r u? One of the mysteries of human evolution is how we can identify mail-shot emails within seconds of reading them. But it’s just an efficient way of putting 50 women off.Of course whether you respond is your personal preference.However, I believe that if someone has taken the time to read my profile and send me a complimentary note expressing genuine interest, then they at least deserve a few minutes of my time to look at their profile and respond with a kind note.
An American study has shown that people are more likely to open an email when they have some curiosity about its contents, or believe they’ll find it useful. So, don’t include any conversation-stoppers like, “Reply if my profile doesn’t put you off! Instead, end with a question that’ll be easy but fun for them to answer.There is give and take: the sender and receiver alternate roles.A conversation is not all about you, nor all about them.Not replying is a sure way of discouraging them and knocking confidence.Basically the conversation is a two-way flow of communication between a sender and receiver.